What's going on
If your parents fight a lot, they might say hurtful things to each other - or even to you.
They might blame you for things that aren’t your fault, or make you feel like you need to “pick a side.”
Let’s be clear: *You are not responsible for their problems.*
When adults are having adult problems, they are not at their best and struggle to be there for you. Sometimes people who are struggling try to make others feel bad to make themselves feel better. If your parent is constantly criticizing you or trying to manipulate you into taking their side, remind yourself that *their words do not define you.*
Red Flags to Watch For:
A parent making you feel guilty for spending time with the other parent
Constant criticism that makes you doubt yourself
Feeling like you have to be the “peacekeeper” in the family
What You Can Do:
Set boundaries (e.g., "I don’t want to talk about Mom/Dad with you.")
Remind yourself that you are not responsible for their feelings
Talk to a friend, therapist, or school counsellor if you need support
Try not to read into things or interpret body language
Give your parents space to process their own problems
